I love this poem written by one of the ladies I met through an IVF clinic I attended. More of her work can be found at http://www.clairetaylor.org/2015/10/15/so-many-unspoken-losses/   A Question  I know you have no say But I’m asking anyway: Will you stay? If you can’t, then I won’t blame you; Nobody’s to blame. But… Continue reading ‘A Question’ (Poem by Claire Taylor)

Jen A1 Pencil on paper

‘Waiting’ A self-portrait, oil on canvas 70cm x 70cm

Self-portrait with Asha the border terrier A1 Pencil on paper After our third miscarriage, we felt completely lost. Grief is love with no place to go – so we got a puppy and finally had somewhere to pour all our love. She rescued us. “Grief, I’ve learned, is really just love. It’s all the love… Continue reading ‘Puppy love’

I had always loved the paintings of Frida Kahlo, but now felt I really understood them and felt like I had a purpose other than being a mother. I felt encouraged to share my work, as daunting as it seemed. My husband encouraged me to do this as he felt it would make other couples… Continue reading Art, Hope and Catharthis

“There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you.” Maya Angelou When my husband and I were faced with fertility struggles and experienced recurrent loss, our instinct was to keep it private, but we soon realized that this didn’t help us. We learned that so many people were going through the same… Continue reading Untold Stories

One of the first things we thought of when we couldn’t get pregnant was to adopt. Yet, after years of research and pain and heartache, people will assume that this thought hasn’t occurred to you. The ‘Why don’t you just adopt’ brigade think they’re being helpful by suggesting this – but they’re being cruel. When I read an… Continue reading ‘Just adopt’

So many people don’t understand Infertility and how it affects others. Friends and families want to help but don’t know how. I stumbled across this guide online and which might give people an insight – and in turn have a little more empathy and understanding. I also stumbled across this blog post when everyone around… Continue reading Facts about Infertility that friends and family should know

 For some reason every time we started an IVF cycle, I had a positive, hopeful attitude that this time would be the last time we have to do it. The first time I was actually excited to start the process and felt grateful to have this opportunity available. When the embryo was being transferred to my womb I could… Continue reading Always hopeful